Godly dating advice for women
We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.In her new book, Why are Christian women today ashamed to admit that they want to get married? For me, a lot of it stemmed from embarrassment that it hadn’t happened.
There really does need to be a mentoring going on with the older married men saying to the younger men, “Unless you have a God-given calling to lifelong celibacy (which includes not dating), you have an obligation to start looking for a wife.[Those women] tend to speak more of things that they have in their control, which is their job or their homes or things that they can acquire all by themselves. Ironically, according to the Census Bureau, there are more Christian single men who are marriage-minded than there are Christian single women. A study by the Barna Group shows that they’re not in the pews.Marriage is one of those rare things that really does take two people. They’re not in churches the way Christian single women are. What would help is if the church and the pastors would speak a unique message to never-married singles to say, “Most of you biblically really are called to marriage.Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.